The closure one was dead on for me. Kind of the whole, forgive them not for them or because they deserved it or said sorry but so that you can have peace in your mind and soul and let go and move out. This has been a big one for me but ultimately it’s the only part we have control over.. our peace of mind.
The closure one really speaks to me. When I realized how dangerous and toxic my ex was, I closed down all lines of communication and walked away. No Dear John text or email, no angry screed, nothing. I just silently walked away. We'd been engaged and it was really hard to do this but a few years later, in talking with other people that had proceeded to remove him from their lives, I realized that walking away silently was the exact thing I needed to do and should have done. My ex has narcissistic personality disorder and they thrive off attention, even negative attention. By depriving them of that, I unintentionally removed him from my life in the best manner possible. It was also confirmed he was using social media to get my attention so by closing it all off, I deprived him of his way to hurt me. Finding out that he posted something to directly target me, AFTER I'd already blocked him, was all the closure I ever needed. It's often hard to see it at the time, but now that I'm removed enough, I know I made all the right choices.
Also, I just decided that I need to leave NYC, where I have lived for over 15 years, and find somewhere new and so #28 is perfect for me! I say goodbye to my 30s in less than a week and I'm ready to tackle this next decade.
Geri I loved this! I have followed your journey for a long time and appreciated you sharing all you have accomplished. All hood sbd hard stuff! . I’m a lot older than you - 64 this year. But your words in this piece have resonated with me as I enter a new phase in my life -retirement!
Thank you for opening your mind and sharing it with us Geri! I have missed your blog and I'm in love with your newsletters so far. I look forward to them and save them for a quite time for myself when I can read your words with a cup of tea - it is becoming a little blissful "me time" tradition.
Really appreciated reading through your lessons learned, there were definitely some great takeaways! Interested in baby stuff, but maybe just baby-lite? 💛
so good, Geri. the toxic friendship thing is real...why has that become so much more apparent in my late 30's and now that I've hit 40?! editing friends down is hard, but I loved what you said in your more recent In Between -- you don't have to make it dramatic or even let them know. just let it be. congrats on what you've built for yourself and on your growing family.
Geri, I really loved this! I’ve read lists like this before but this one truly resonated. It’s the thoughtfulness, your writing style but also your take on things. I really appreciated it and know I’ll refer to this again and again- when I need motivation, when things are good or bad, etc.
And bring on the baby stuff! At the very least, we will always know someone who’s gonna have a baby! Congrats on your little one on the way!
New baby must have list: Bjorn bouncer seat, Dock a tot infant lounger, Frida soft sink, Mustella cradle cap foam soap & lotion, Ella Ola eczema cream & lotion, Brezza formula dispenser and/or bottle warmer, Yookidoo Baby Bath Shower Head (via Amazon- this is amazing!), flannel swaddle blanket (I like Moms on Call version), Woolino merino wool onesies and sleepers, Simple Joys long sleeve fleece sleep sack for winter baby, Kyte & Woolino sleep sacks for when baby is older. I may think of more. :-)
The closure one was dead on for me. Kind of the whole, forgive them not for them or because they deserved it or said sorry but so that you can have peace in your mind and soul and let go and move out. This has been a big one for me but ultimately it’s the only part we have control over.. our peace of mind.
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The closure one really speaks to me. When I realized how dangerous and toxic my ex was, I closed down all lines of communication and walked away. No Dear John text or email, no angry screed, nothing. I just silently walked away. We'd been engaged and it was really hard to do this but a few years later, in talking with other people that had proceeded to remove him from their lives, I realized that walking away silently was the exact thing I needed to do and should have done. My ex has narcissistic personality disorder and they thrive off attention, even negative attention. By depriving them of that, I unintentionally removed him from my life in the best manner possible. It was also confirmed he was using social media to get my attention so by closing it all off, I deprived him of his way to hurt me. Finding out that he posted something to directly target me, AFTER I'd already blocked him, was all the closure I ever needed. It's often hard to see it at the time, but now that I'm removed enough, I know I made all the right choices.
Also, I just decided that I need to leave NYC, where I have lived for over 15 years, and find somewhere new and so #28 is perfect for me! I say goodbye to my 30s in less than a week and I'm ready to tackle this next decade.
Good for you for waking away, I know how hard that is to do 🫶🏻
Geri I loved this! I have followed your journey for a long time and appreciated you sharing all you have accomplished. All hood sbd hard stuff! . I’m a lot older than you - 64 this year. But your words in this piece have resonated with me as I enter a new phase in my life -retirement!
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Thank you for opening your mind and sharing it with us Geri! I have missed your blog and I'm in love with your newsletters so far. I look forward to them and save them for a quite time for myself when I can read your words with a cup of tea - it is becoming a little blissful "me time" tradition.
🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
Really appreciated reading through your lessons learned, there were definitely some great takeaways! Interested in baby stuff, but maybe just baby-lite? 💛
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so good, Geri. the toxic friendship thing is real...why has that become so much more apparent in my late 30's and now that I've hit 40?! editing friends down is hard, but I loved what you said in your more recent In Between -- you don't have to make it dramatic or even let them know. just let it be. congrats on what you've built for yourself and on your growing family.
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I loved this so much!! And please do share all your baby/ postpartum purchases!! Second baby arrives in 5 weeks :)
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Geri, I really loved this! I’ve read lists like this before but this one truly resonated. It’s the thoughtfulness, your writing style but also your take on things. I really appreciated it and know I’ll refer to this again and again- when I need motivation, when things are good or bad, etc.
And bring on the baby stuff! At the very least, we will always know someone who’s gonna have a baby! Congrats on your little one on the way!
THANK YOU 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
New baby must have list: Bjorn bouncer seat, Dock a tot infant lounger, Frida soft sink, Mustella cradle cap foam soap & lotion, Ella Ola eczema cream & lotion, Brezza formula dispenser and/or bottle warmer, Yookidoo Baby Bath Shower Head (via Amazon- this is amazing!), flannel swaddle blanket (I like Moms on Call version), Woolino merino wool onesies and sleepers, Simple Joys long sleeve fleece sleep sack for winter baby, Kyte & Woolino sleep sacks for when baby is older. I may think of more. :-)
THANK YOU 🫶🏻
Manon is such a fun follow, thanks for the recommendation!
Loving reading through your lessons learned through your 30's—so much wisdom here 🫶
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Love your mind, Geri. Thanks for sharing with us.
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I am really loving your long form articles. Thank you so much for sharing! So many valuable nuggets in this one.
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Love these lessons, so helpful to remember! Thank you for sharing! <3
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